Have you heard about the love bucket? It’s an interesting concept that can actually help you in your quest for personal development. Listen in as Juliet Clark’s guest explains how it works in this episode. Joie Gharrity, the Founder of 113 Branding, also shares her knowledge, wisdom, and tools that she uses as a brand strategist and marketer. Joie gives a new perspective on what a brand means and what it’s really about. Learn amazing practices that will not only help you connect with your readers and clients but enhance your relationships with them on a more personal and deeper level. Understand how knowing and growing your capacity plays a huge role in your journey as she cites examples of household names that have realized their capacities early. In addition, she gives away a tool that she personally created and uses that will help you fill up your capacity.
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Branding, Alignment, And The Love Bucket Concept With Joie Gharrity
I have a branding expert who’s going to talk about alignment and your love bucket. Before we get started, I want to send you over. Remember to take the Promote Profit Publish quiz at www.PromoteProfitPublishQuiz.com and find out if you are ready to publish. Do you have all your pieces in place? Do you have your brand in place? Do you have all those things of visibility that’s going to put your book out there in a big way? If you want to see these people live, you can go over to YouTube and follow us on at Super Brand Publishing. All the videos are over there.
Our guest is Joie Gharrity, the Founder of 113 Branding and is a Brand Director, author, and international speaker. She worked in the Hollywood entertainment industry for fifteen–plus years at the top companies in film, television, original web content, and branded entertainment. She was handpicked by the ABC Studio president to launch the first multimedia start-up business for The Walt Disney Company. After returning to the Bay Area, Joie was inspired to launch 113 Branding. She works to integrate her strategic branding and marketing vision with all creative types to leverage their experience, gifts, and talents. She’s also seen both sides of the entertainment industry, which is a big bonus. When you’ve seen both sides, you know what goes on one side, and you know how your clients should be able to view it on another side.
She’s taken that vision and put it into her superstar visibility and influence system. Her system includes digital branding, marketing strategies, tools, techniques, and tips that increase your brand visibility, influence, elevates her clients to superstar status in the marketplace. In her book, The Red Carpet Guide to Visibility and Influence, she shares her Hollywood journey along with branding and marketing techniques. She has another book, which we’re going to talk about too. That is Be Your Own Superstar that’s going to launch in October of 2021. Joie shares her signature, Be Your Own Superstar step-by-step system, along with techniques, tools, and tips that will enable you to take your brand to superstar status, push through the glass ceiling, and replace overwhelm with eagerness and focus on becoming a superstar in your field. Welcome, Joie.
Thank you for having me.We're just an accessory to the actual brand, which is ourselves. Click To Tweet
You’re welcome. You’ve done so much. It was well worth it. I love that you’ve been on both sides of it. You and I talked a little bit. I’ve been on both sides of this as well. From advertising, I’m going to steal that perception is reality, and people don’t realize that when they’re creating their brand. Can you talk about that?
What a bunch of my teachings are around is that we’re an accessory to the actual brand, which is ourselves. We’re in a time or place in history where people want to pull back the right curtain. You don’t have to give away your entire personal life. You don’t have to show pictures of your kids. That’s not what we’re talking about. We’re talking about that we all are born with particular gifts and talents. Along the way, we fill this toolbox as with more and more of that, myself being in Hollywood and then sharing that out there in the marketplace, but letting people come along on the journey I feel is imperative nowadays.
We talk a lot about being in alignment because, as I have run into people that are one-way online, you meet them in person, and you’re struck by, they’re nothing like that. Can you talk about how important it is to have your brand in alignment with who you are?
I was watching Kane Brown. He’s a country singer. I’m a huge fan of his. It’s not just because he is brilliant and he is an amazing singer, but because he’s letting people into his life, he’s showing the journey along with meeting his wife, they get their wedding. He lets you into the wedding, now with their new baby. This struck a chord with me. I was thinking about even how is a video out now where the first three minutes are just him, his baby, and not even memory clips, but him having a stare-down contest with his newborn baby. I was like, “This is what we’re talking about.” I watched the whole time. There was no music. It didn’t matter because he’s letting us into his essence. He’s letting us into what I’m referring to now as your love bucket capacity. He’s showing us how he’s growing his love bucket capacity by generously letting us see his life, but also to how he’s sharing his love with his family, his friends, and now with his fans.
Even more amazing that you live in San Francisco, and you’re a country-Western fan. I’m a central California girl. I grew up on Buck Owens.
I love country music.
I do too. I’m a huge Gary Allan fan, which I would say now that you shared that about Kane Brown. Gary Allan doesn’t share anything. We don’t know who he is. He needs to share more.
We’re going to see this, but we’re seeing how things are transcending into what we’re identifying as alignment. That is, people want to see the authentic you. There’s nothing perfect about Kane Brown. He’s very authentic about his upbringing. He’s authentic about his struggles and what’s going on out there for him in the world. However, he’s also generous with allowing people to see that he’s an extension of his brand. Therefore, they’re able to pull back the red curtain. That’s why stars at that level go into superstardom. In my teachings, and particularly in the second book as I’m talking about how when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you’re opening doors for others to do the same, and that’s being of service.
Let’s put out the difference here between vulnerability and TMI because some people do not know the difference.
It’s about being in the moment, but not the broken bird moments. Those are moments where you’re doing your internal healing. After my brother passed away, I was very much a broken bird. I was having a struggle all the time. Those moments would have come off as angry, sad, and beyond disappointment and frustration because I was trying to get some footing again. I’m not talking about that. However, when I was able to start moving through that journey, I was able to start letting people in because I was now becoming more empathetic about what other people were going through.
I wanted other people to know, I understand sorrow. I understand pain at that level. I was doing it in a way where I was sharing with people how I was getting better. The tools, techniques, stretch, and the growth that I was going through so that I could emotionally connect with other people to let them know, first of all, you’re not alone. Second of all, “Not that you should do it my way, because there’s no one way, but here’s a tool that worked for me.” There’s a big difference between allowing people on the journey and throwing everything up out there in the marketplace.Part of branding is having to identify for yourself your unique point of view. Click To Tweet
Similar experience, I lost my sister several years ago. Everybody does heal in their own way, but once you get into it, you used a nice word there. I’m going to call it victimhood and get that out online. For most people, it doesn’t reflect who they are in any sense. For a lot of my authors, they think that branding is choosing the colors, choosing images that fit what they think and you’re talking about it so much more. Share the love bucket concept and how you see it fitting into society because there’s not a lot of love out there. How can we all use that to our benefit?
Part of branding is having to identify for yourself your unique point of view, and all your authors have a unique point of view. That’s why they’re telling the story. All that other accessory, the book covers, got to come through in terms of your essence of who you are. We want to take that seriously. However, what we also want to be looking at is how you are going to share that unique point of view with your brand before, during, after, around the book as well. That’s a big part of branding. In my second book, Be Your Own Superstar, I’m talking about the love bucket capacity. This is level two of my system when I’m talking about, “I’ve got you on the red carpet. Now let’s get you on in your field and whatever the big screen is.” That’s not people’s magazine screen. That is how you’re going to stand in your birthrights, standing in your spotlight.
However, I believe that we are taught to go into the back door, and that teaching comes in society through media and even through the school systems. My mom was a teacher for 32 years. I love teachers. I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about the systems. What we’re taught is to set down goals and to set intentions. I’m like, “We all should do that,” but then we start focusing on the outcome. What I’m saying is that if your love bucket capacity, in other words, the outcome is love, money, you can put it in anything tangible. I have people say, “I want $1 million.” I’m like, “Do you have the capacity to hold $1 million worth of love? Money is just love.”
If someone walked up to you right now and handed you a $1 million check, would you lean in? Could you hold it? Could you keep it? There are three steps to this. It’s the same thing with the superstars, me being around them. Having these encounters of being on certain movies and being around certain Hollywood stars that not only have they got back to the capacity early. It’s not that they were more talented necessarily. It’s just that they got back to understanding their capacity.
Part of what I’m teaching out there through the book and through my system, the daily habits I put together is that anyone can have anything they want. However, if your capacity to be able to handle that level of love that comes with it isn’t there, what starts happening is your capacity starts filling up with sadness, disappointment, and regret. I had that going on for years, particularly after my brother. I had a small slice of love capacity. Therefore, what was happening to me?
I wasn’t able to hold things for long periods of time. I get it, but then I was able to hold it because my capacity wasn’t there. A couple of years ago, I started connecting the dots again. My entire life has changed dramatically in two years because I’ve been working on the clarity than the goal or intention, put that to the side. Work on the capacity to be able to hold it and keep working on the capacity, be able to not just hold it, be able to retain it for a lifetime.
That is interesting because you always hear about people who have that capacity in the sense that they can make it, but then they turn around, and they lose it. How do you get yourself in shape for something like that? You can make it, you can achieve it, and then keep it? What does that look like?
I am a daily habits girl. I’m very disciplined with those daily habits. That is what got me through the dark times. That’s what got me back into play again as I started sharing daily habits. The daily habit around growing your love bucket capacity. I have several that I do every single morning to set myself up and then throughout the day because you’ll see movie stars, you see people that you admire, and you’ll see them burn the whole house down. You’ll get everything. Everyone’s like, “What’s their problem? Why are they sabotaging all that?” I’m like, “It’s no different than anyone else globally. We’re sabotaging because our capacity is full of regret, disappointment, sadness, and all these other things that we haven’t moved out of the way and replaced with growing the love or the love capacity was enough to allow it to happen, but not enough in order to hold it.
Not enough of that in order to hold it and retain it for a long period of time. You’ll see them publicly burn it all down. That is part of the sabotage component. That’s what I want to share with people out there. Branding is an extension of us. If you are, let’s say, one of your authors or all of your authors. All the ones sell a million copies or more. In my teachings, what I would share with them now is, “You can sell a million copies or more.” I’m my first mentor. The first movie I ever worked on was Surrogate. The second movie was Independence Day.
My mentor went one day and came back with $100 million. You can have anything, but he had the capacity to hold it for a long period of time. That’s still why he’s one of the top ten directors in the world. To authors, set the goal. It’s important, set the intention but then put that aside. Now start working on do you know how much love that you’re going to have to be able to handle and hold to sell a million books? That’s a lot of love. That’s a lot of brand evangelists. That’s a lot of people walking up to you, even on the street, and saying, “I know you, I’ve read your book. I love you. Will you sign this? Will you take a picture with me?” Talking about you online. You’ll be on endless media, endless shows. That is a whole lot of love and a big capacity
It sounds like your book is going to be a guide for my authors because here’s what I see, and I bet your daily practice would take this away from them is, we get two months out, and they completely fall apart. I call it imposter syndrome, but I can see them sabotaging before my eyes. There’s this struggle going on with, “We need to do this. I can’t do it.” The daily practice helped them get through that piece because you have self–published before, so there’s that time where you hate your publisher. You hate life.
I hated my book. I didn’t pick it up again. I went away for a week. I was in Acapulco and sat inside of the hotel room until the last day that I made myself pick up my book. I was like, “This is good.” I was shocked because I thought what I was going to see on the other side of it, I’d made up many stories for myself. What I know will work for the authors is to stop focusing on the outcome, set the outcome, but now they start focusing on the daily habits around the capacity. When media shows up, when you call them, when you’re like, “We’re going to do this,” they are not only going to be eager and enthusiastic, but they’re going to be in flow with it.Growing up, most people were taught how to get comfortable with disappointment. Click To Tweet
As my love bucket capacity has been growing for the last few years, things that would have shaken me many years ago, I don’t even think about anymore. I’m enthusiastic because love attracts enthusiasm, greatness, fun, and it’s exciting. What’s not exciting is being dragged down and digging, “I don’t want to get disappointed again.” Back to that sadness, “Is anyone going to like it?” That’s because it’s sitting in the capacity level. Our growing up, most people were taught how to get comfortable with disappointment.
That is what our society teaches us, media pounds on this day one. What’s the last name you were born into has so much to do with this. What kind of money are you born into? What did your parents do? What part of the city do you live in? How big is the house? All of this stuff are signals that are filling our capacity from day one. At first, to start working on love capacity, it feels like you’re going up a mountain because it’s not comfortable at all. It’s uncomfortable that the first couple of months, I was getting so much love that I had to take a nap. I was crawling into bed because I was trying to grapple with all of it, but it changes with time.
The lessons as part of letting go. I don’t know how many times of the last couple of years I’ve said, “Can I let go of that?” I sat down and like, “Can I choose not to control that?” A lot of times, we not only get caught up in that story, but we get caught up in our master of the universe role like, “Who died and left us master of the universe?” That gets in our way with it too because of those expectations you’re talking about that lead us to disappointment. I love that you have a daily routine with all of this. Some of the people who sabotage themselves when they’re writing their books with me are healers. It’s amazing when I ask, “What does your daily practice look like now?” They’re like, “I don’t have it. I haven’t been doing it lately.” When you do it and work it, the results are amazing. I’m super excited about your book. Do you have a free gift for us?
I have 113 branding tips to take your business to superstar status. I’ve always been a DIY girl. I’d like things to be bite-sized, doable, and every tip in there is very doable. If you put all 113 of them into practice, then it will elevate and have your brand store higher.
Where can we find that at?
You can find that at 113Branding.com.
Guys, go on over, take a look. The book comes out on October 23, 2021. Remember, it’s her birthday. Do you want to give us your address? We’ll send flowers.
I will get my love bucket capacity of that level by then. All of a sudden, strangers are sending me gifts. That’s where we want to get to. On my website too, I have the Be Your own Superstar page there. This is where I dive deeper into the whole love bucket capacity, how I came to connecting the dots around these interactions with like Will Smith, how I looked at Oprah Winfrey’s brand, how she helped me. Oprah Winfrey is worth $1 billion or more. I’m thinking, “How big does your capacity have to be that you’re worth $1 billion, and every day you’re worth more and more?” She’s good. She’s not burning down houses. She’s not freaking out. She’s leaning in. I’m like, “That’s because of her inner game work she’s been working on for so long.”
She’s visibly done it in front of all of us with the weight loss. She has done it perfectly vulnerable and invisible with that struggle in front of all of us. That’s amazing. Thank you so much. This has been very illuminating.
I appreciate you. Thank you for having me on.
This is a bonus. We’ve never done this at the end before, but Joie wanted to share with you one of the exercises she does every morning. She calls it the BYO Superstar Love Bucket Capacity. Take it away.
It’s a tool and that I created, and this has been helping me. Every morning when I wake up, I have already picked a YouTube video that has a screaming crowd. There are all kinds of those. One is applause, all kinds, but I liked the screaming crowd. What I do is I take my iPhone, set my settings for five minutes, and I turn on the screaming crowd. I visualize myself walking into a huge stadium, the biggest stadium I’ve ever been in, and I stand in the middle of the stadium. I see the whole crowd, all 360, all around me, and they’re screaming for me. I do set an intention or goal, but then I put that aside, and now I work on building the capacity. As they’re screaming for me, I’m building my love bucket capacity, my internal love bucket capacity.
I’ve taken all their love. What happens during the day for me is there’ll be times in the day where I’ll have a little, or I’ll think about my brother, for instance. I’ll bring sadness, and that sadness wants to take up capacity. At the same moment, I will hear in the back from behind me, the screaming crowd and all that love. It quiets down the sadness, disappointment and starts filling up the capacity with that instead. I recommend that everyone does this every single day, but for sure, for 21 days, and then please reach out to me and let me know what happens for you. It’s incredible.
How do they reach out to you? Do you have an email address you want to read from?
Thank you so much for sharing that exercise.
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About Joie Gharrity
Joie Gharrity Founder of 113 Branding is a Brand Director, Author, and International Speaker. She worked in the Hollywood entertainment industry for 15+ years at top companies, in film, television, original web content, and branded entertainment. She was hand-picked by the ABC Studio President to launch the first multi-media startup business for The Walt Disney Company.
After returning to the Bay Area, Joie was inspired to launch 113 Branding. She works with entrepreneurs, businesses and creative types to leverage their expertise, gifts and talents. She integrates her strategic branding and marketing vision with both the creative and business sides of the entertainment industry through her unique, tested and proven system the 113 Branding Superstar Visibility & Influence System. Her system includes digital branding and marketing strategies, tools, techniques and tips that increase their brand visibility and influence that elevates her clients to superstar status in the marketplace. In her book The Red Carpet Guide to Visibility and Influence, Joie shares her Hollywood journey along with branding and marketing techniques.
In her second book Be Your Own Superstar that launches 10/23/2021, Joie shares her signature Be Your Own Superstar step-by-step system along with techniques, tools and tips that will enable you to take your brand to superstar status, push through the glass ceiling, replace overwhelm with eagerness and focus and become a superstar in your field. She designed the book to double as a play guide for entrepreneurs and creative types to implement her signature system to manifest their dreams.
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